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Grounds for Divorce

By: Dave Howell - Updated: 27 Jun 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Grounds For Divorce Living Apart

If you are thinking about divorce before you go any further with the process that will dissolve your marriage you must be sure that you have legal grounds to ask for a divorce. In law only certain circumstances will be granted a divorce by the courts.

The law states that you have to prove that your marriage has irrevocably broken down by showing that at least one of five facts is true. If you can satisfy the court that one of these facts applies to your marriage, your divorce will be granted. The five facts are:

If Both Parties in the marriage have Lived Apart for More than 2 Years

If the divorce isn’t contested, a divorce will usually be granted in these circumstances. It is possible for two people to continue to live in the same place, but to carry on totally separate lives. The court will want to see proof that you and your spouse are living separately that can include sleeping, cooking and washing independently.

If Both Parties in the Marriage have Lived Apart for More than 5 Years

If this amount of time has elapsed the divorce will usually be granted even if one party contests the divorce. One party in the divorce may claim they would suffer financial hardship if the divorce were to be granted. It is a good idea to discuss the details with a solicitor if you are going to use this fact as the basis for your divorce petition.

If One of the Parties in the Marriage Deserts the Other for More than 2 Years

Desertion is defined as leaving your partner without good reason. Also, the period of desertion must be continuous. Short periods of desertion cannot be added together.

If One Partner Behaves Unreasonably Towards the Other

This can be serious misconduct due to excessive drinking, but can equally mean things like working long hours and ignoring family responsibilities. The court will have to make an objective decision about whether the behaviour is unreasonable and therefore grounds for a divorce.

If One Partner Commits Adultery with a Person of the Opposite Sex

Sex with a person of the same sex is not considered adultery. If you continue to live with your partner for over 6 months after discovering they have committed adultery it is unlikely that the court would grant your divorce based on this fact as too much time has gone by. You do not have to name the other party in the adultery. But if you don’t know their name, you must state this in the divorce petition you send to the court.

Note that civil partnerships between same sex partners also have to prove that their partnerships has broken down, but do not have to prove adultery. Civil partnerships tend to use unreasonable behaviour as the qualifying factor in their divorce proceedings.

Grounds for Divorce in Scotland

All of the five facts regarding grounds for divorce apply in Scotland except desertion that has now been abolished as a ground for divorce. Also, you only need to have lived apart for 1 year in Scotland to be granted a divorce and not 2 years as in England and Wales. The five-year separation fact is also reduced to 2 years if you live in Scotland.

Grounds for Divorce in Northern Ireland

The five facts apply to divorces in Northern Ireland. However, the do-it-yourself divorces that can be completed by simply filling in forms are not possible in Northern Ireland. All divorce cases are heard before a judge.

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Patricia - 9-Feb-17 @ 2:12 PM
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Mile - 8-Feb-17 @ 6:42 PM
Jknight1975 - Your Question:
I split up from my wife in 2005 we have no kids together or no financial ties,she contacted in 2009 an said if she sends me divorce papers would I sign. I agreed to do this gave her my address but never received any divorce papers,I have not heard from her since, I was wondering were I stand

Our Response:
You might have to get in touch and ask her directly.
CourtroomAdvice - 8-Feb-17 @ 12:25 PM
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Jknight1975 - 7-Feb-17 @ 10:58 PM
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bella - 14-Jan-17 @ 8:12 AM
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Perri - 9-Jan-17 @ 4:53 PM
What I should have wrote was "I don`t accept she wants a divorce on the grounds of adultery".
335 - 31-Dec-16 @ 7:49 AM
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335 - 31-Dec-16 @ 7:45 AM
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claire1978 - 26-Dec-16 @ 2:57 AM
Bumblebee- Your Question:
Hello, I've been married since 2008. Husband in RAF so away a lot. We have two children 7 and 4. He had affair when I was 5 months pregnant with our youngest. Went to relate etc. He left me for another woman July 2015. They've had a baby. Myself and my children were being evicted from the military home in Wiltshire (as that is where he was posted) No help from husband to find anywhere to live. I ended up moving up to Lincolnshire to live near my sister for support. He is no saying he's divorcing me on grounds of unreasonable behavior. How can he when I've done nothing but try and save my marriage?!

Our Response:
I am very sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, in order to file for a divorce a reason has to be given and there has been an push for a no-fault divorce, as the current system is viewed as outdated for the 21st century. However, the current system still requires the petitioning spouse to list faults of the other person (where no faults may actually even exist). But, this is where the solicitor's make their money, especially if the petition is counter-claimed or denied. I can only suggest you speak to a legal professional regarding this, as much depends upon which stance you wish to take. The reasons your ex may give may not be contentious ones, it's just that if he wishes to file for a divorce, then the court will expect him to come up with some. The court is neither interestsed in the reasons, they are rightly or wrongly simply a requirement made in order for the petition to progress.
CourtroomAdvice - 29-Nov-16 @ 2:32 PM
Hello, I've been married since 2008. Husband in RAF so away a lot. We have two children 7 and 4. He had affair when I was 5 months pregnant with our youngest. Went to relate etc. He left me for another woman July 2015. They've had a baby. Myself and my children were being evicted from the military home in Wiltshire (as that is where he was posted) No help from husband to find anywhere to live. I ended up moving up to Lincolnshire to live near my sister for support. He is no saying he's divorcing me on grounds of unreasonable behavior. How can he when I've done nothing but try and save my marriage?!
Bumblebee - 29-Nov-16 @ 8:53 AM
Hi my husband and me split up 2015 but I want a divorce he keeps saying he's going to do it but never does we have been separated since and I live in poole and he lives up north how do I go about it myself to get it sorted I'm sick and tired of waiting with one excuse after another many thanks cat
Cat - 19-Nov-16 @ 5:37 PM
emerson40 - Your Question:
Me and my partner separated on our anniversary this year 2016 as she claims she no longer cares for me we were married for sixteen years what do I do

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. If you are contemplating starting divorce proceedings, please see CAB link here.
CourtroomAdvice - 17-Nov-16 @ 12:30 PM
me and my partner separated on our anniversarythis year 2016 as she claims she no longer cares for me we were married for sixteen years what do I do
emerson40 - 16-Nov-16 @ 11:21 PM
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Deb - 28-Oct-16 @ 4:58 PM
Dee dee - Your Question:
We have been seperated for 5 year. I have sent divorce papers. My husband denies we have been seperated this long what do I do

Our Response:
Can you prove you have been separated for this amount of time? A utility bill or proof you were resident elsewhere may help.
CourtroomAdvice - 5-Oct-16 @ 12:14 PM
We have been seperated for 5 year. I have sent divorce papers.My husband denies we have been seperated this long what do i do
Dee dee - 4-Oct-16 @ 2:39 PM
My husband left me in April and rented a flat he said he couldn't live with my kids .we have lived separate since then he promised he would still give our marriage his full attention but not under the same roof . We had a row on September 3rd 2016 because I wanted to spend the night with him . He ended our marriage by text the next morning . I've not heard from him since . I want to divorce him what grounds would this come under x thanks so much .
France - 3-Oct-16 @ 8:48 PM
sweetpea- Your Question:
My husband had an affair in May2016 and left. I won't divorce him. He's now divorcing me on grounds of unreasonable behaviour.I presume from the swearing texts I sent him. We have a child aged 16. We have agreed maintenance. Out marital home is being sold and proceeds split Which has already been agreed. Do I need a solicitor if he is divorcing me 0n these grounds. I cannot afford to keep paying for one.

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. There are various online informative websites advising on the best options regarding divorce, please see CAB link here.
CourtroomAdvice - 30-Sep-16 @ 2:43 PM
Raz - Your Question:
Me and my wife have separated after 20 years marriage.She has committed adultery at least four times and Because we are joint tenants in a council property.Who has the the rights to the house.

Our Response:
You can see more via the CAB link here which will tell you more.
CourtroomAdvice - 16-Sep-16 @ 2:28 PM
My husband had an affair in May2016 and left. I won'tdivorce him.He's now divorcing me on grounds of unreasonable behaviour..I presume from the swearing texts i sent him.We have a child aged 16.We have agreed maintenance . Out marital home is being sold and proceeds split Which has already been agreed.Do I need a solicitor if he is divorcing me 0n these grounds. I cannot afford to keep paying for one.
sweetpea - 16-Sep-16 @ 1:02 PM
Me and my wife have separated after 20 years marriage. She has committed adultery at least four times and Because we are joint tenants in a council property . Who has the the rights to the house.
Raz - 10-Sep-16 @ 10:58 AM
Hi, My husband received a 7 year prison sentence for which he will serve 3.5 years in custody, I have decided that I want to end the marriage as there is history of DA and unreasonable behavior, does this separation time currently at 2years 6months count as desertion? I would like to divorce in the simplest way possible. Thanks in advance
Davina - 27-Aug-16 @ 5:31 PM
Rachel- Your Question:
My husband is mentally ill, I ended our marriage nearly a year ago & have a partner who I live with. I have no money for a divorce so need it to be done quickly & cheaply, we don't have any assets to divide, my ex has no contact with the children by his own choice & I don't know where he lives or how to contact him but I'm desperate not to be tied to him in anyway, I really don't want to wait, what can I do ?

Our Response:
If you want to divorce your husband or wife, but don’t know where they are, the court can end the marriage without sending them the divorce petition. Please see gov.uk link here. Also, it offers more generalised advice here. I hope this helps.
CourtroomAdvice - 15-Aug-16 @ 11:26 AM
My husband is mentally ill, I ended our marriage nearly a year ago & have a partner who I live with. I have no money for a divorce so need it to be done quickly & cheaply, we don't have any assets to divide, my ex has no contact with the children by his own choice & I don't know where he lives or how to contact him but I'm desperate not to be tied to him in anyway, I really don't want to wait, what can I do ?
Rachel - 14-Aug-16 @ 9:27 AM
I found out my husband of 10 yrs and been living together for 14 yrs and together for 20. Had an affair I stayed for 3 month. Then took my 3 children and left the family home. What can I divorce him on and what can I expect to get in the monetary settlement. We have a house and a holiday apartment. He has a pension.
Cat - 13-Jul-16 @ 6:49 PM
Caz - Your Question:
My husband and I split up a year ago due to his constant work commitment an no family time. We have been married 35 years. He met someone else in September after we split in April and had a relationship with this woman. He proceeded to tell me when I found out that it was over with her and wanted to try our marriage again. But he lied and I found out he was seeing both of us. Can I divorce him for adultery. We have not lived together since we split up in April last year.

Our Response:
Adultery and unreasonable behaviour are the two most common reasons given one half of a couple as a reason for divorce. However, there are time limits involved in claiming adultery as the reason and you must file the divorce petition within six months of becoming aware of your husband's adultery. Perhaps some legal advice may be available here - you may be able to get some free advice from a solicitor before you decide to petition for the divorce.
CourtroomAdvice - 16-Jun-16 @ 10:57 AM
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